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Thursday 7 January 2016
Yes, "No means No", but what about YOU?
Wednesday 23 December 2015
Take Seven for the Fat Girls...
#LetsBlameJonathan
See, I am not just playing a #LetsBlameJonathan like Alhaji Lai Lai Mohammed, this is a serious sontin for me. I need to take pictures of my food while cooking it, because this is what this generation is all about. Who knows if a potential husband material is out there watching my Facebook timeline? How will he know that I am a full six yards (sometimes less one quarter yard) of wife material, if I cannot put up step by step pictures of myself cooking aesthetically perfect (but gastronomically disastrous) dishes?
Ees eet gud laik dat?
http://www.sabinews.com/30161-2/
Tuesday 22 December 2015
Crying Relief With Onions
Facing Down Nigeria's Ghosts - Enuma Okoro
OP-ED CONTRIBUTOR
Facing Down Nigeria’s Ghosts
CHRISTINA HAGERFORS
By ENUMA OKORO
DECEMBER 20, 2015
ABUJA, Nigeria — Before my grandmother died in 2010, she gave each of her 17 grandchildren a crisp one-pound note. It was an unceremonious gift, without lectures or reminiscing. She opened my hands and firmly pressed the bill into my palm. “You must keep this,” she said, before following up in Igbo: “Inugo?” Do you hear me? “Yes, Grandma,” I responded. “Thank you.”
Later, in another room, I looked at the note more closely. The bill was beautiful, with its antiquated font and soft, mint-green coloring with brown highlights.
One side had a palm tree standing tall in the center, bordered by intricate calligraphy. Across the top were the words “Republic of Biafra.”
To my grandmother, it was an invaluable offering, worth more than her thick coral necklaces or her gold embroidered George fabrics.
She wanted her grandchildren to have a piece of Biafra, the short-lived country that she and millions of others from our Igbo ethnic group had attempted to create as a refuge from the newly independent country of Nigeria, setting off the civil war of 1967-70, also known as the Biafran war.
Since relocating to Nigeria 16 months ago, I am learning anew just how complex is the history of my country. Nigeria has never really had a single national identity. Ethnic tensions existed ever since 1914, when British colonizers amalgamated more than 250 ethnic and linguistic groups into a new country.
But in the years after Nigeria declared independence in 1960, the three main ethnic groups — the Hausa-Fulani in the north, who are mostly Muslim, and the Yoruba in the southwest and Igbos in the southeast, who mostly practice Christianity or traditional religions — jockeyed for power.
In 1966, the situation exploded when a coup and counter-coup led to ethnic violence. Over 30,000 Igbos were killed between July and September of that year. In May 1967, feeling unprotected by the Nigerian government and at risk of genocide, the Igbos of the southeast declared independence. A civil war ensued.
On Jan. 15, 1970, after two and a half years of brutal fighting in which more than one million Nigerians died, Biafra ceded to Nigeria. Overnight my grandmother and other Igbos who had survived the war became Nigerian again.
The previous years were painful for my grandmother, and the process of renegotiating her identity as a Nigerian was, too. The Biafran pounds that she kept stashed away for 40 years before passing them on to her grandchildren were emblematic of an important part of my grandmother’s identity as an Igbo.
Most Nigerians of my grandmother’s generation have kept their memories of that difficult period to themselves. In the decades since the civil war, there hasn’t been any public reckoning of the ruptures that led to it. There are no national memorials, except for the poorly funded and run-down National War Museum in Umuahia, a city in the former Republic of Biafra. Besides the all-inclusive Armed Forces Remembrance Day to honor soldiers who have fought for Nigeria in conflict and war, Nigeria holds no officially sanctioned days of remembrance to honor civilian casualties.
There have been no meaningful truth and reconciliation commissions. There is little in Nigerians’ collective memory to acknowledge that we once turned against one another and divided our country in two.
The memory of Biafra, like the memory of the brutality that brought the country into being and the conflict that followed, has become a ghost haunting our country’s pretenses of national unity. From the opinions written today in daily newspapers to the vitriolic comments made by traditional rulers from some ethnic groups, it is clear that many Nigerians still hold ethnic allegiances ahead of any unified nationalism.
Nigeria’s refusal to acknowledge the most divisive part of its history is why the same fears and rivalries that created the climate for the war still fester today. There is a very real risk of history repeating itself.
In October, the Department of State Security arrested Nnamdi Kanu, a pro-Biafran independence activist. He was charged with conspiracy and being part of an illegal organization for his work with Radio Biafra, an underground radio station. In the weeks after, protests sprung up around southeastern Nigeria calling for his release — and for the region to secede once again. What began as nonviolent demonstrations turned bloody on Dec. 3, when the Joint Military Task Force, made up of army, navy, police and civil defense troops, opened fire on hundreds of protesters in the city of Onitsha in the southeastern state of Anambra. Between nine and 13 people were killed. (The number is still unclear.) Soon after, news emerged that angry protesters had set the central mosque in Onitsha on fire in retaliation.
Political leaders from both the north and the south have made halfhearted attempts to address the concerns raised by the protests. The federal government, for its part, said that they were “economic.” Last week, Mr. Kanu was released on bail but the charges against him remain in place.
Though Nigerians’ views are mixed on the separatist cause and the protesters’ tactics, many see the current agitation as symptomatic of deeper national wounds, that if unattended to could have dangerous consequences for the whole country.
“The issue of Biafra is something we can never forget, neither our children nor our great-great-grandchildren after our time because it is part of history,” Chief Joseph Achuzia, a former Biafran leader, said recently. “The problem Nigeria is facing now is the inability to come to terms with the reality.” He’s right. What a nation permits itself to remember about its past creates the boundaries by which collective identity is established.
There will never be any hope of national unity if Nigeria cannot acknowledge the tragedy of Biafra and the civil war — and deal with the consequences. There needs to be public discussion around what it means to be Nigerian and what the government can do to lead the country in experiencing itself as one nation and one people.
Ethnic groups from the north and the south fought before independence in 1960. Before the first coup, during the civil war, and after, Igbos have felt the threat of economic, social and political marginalization. The new pro-Biafran protests are led by youth who have little memory of Biafra or the brutality and horror of the civil war. And yet fears of oppression under the current government remain.
During the March 2015 presidential elections, a majority of southeastern Nigeria voted for the political party of the incumbent president, Goodluck Jonathan. Many Igbos feared that Mr. Jonathan’s challenger, Muhammadu Buhari, a northern Muslim Fulani who led a military coup in 1983, would act on a latent hatred for Igbos, despite his promises to rebuild the country’s “broken walls”...
http://www.nytimes.com/2015/12/21/opinion/facing-down-nigerias-ghosts.html
Sunday 20 December 2015
Take Seven for Christmas...
The tethering of the goat at the front of your house (your neighbours must observe and acknowledge say you no dey joke).
The fattening of the goat for a few days.
The slaughter on Christmas eve after night mass.
The singeing off of the fur.
The cutting up of the bits.
Pepper soup with the intestines.
Fried and stewed goat meat
Jollof rice and goat meat.
What's holding you back?
"Growth".
"Alongside or outside the company's career path plan"?
"Huh"?
Saturday 21 November 2015
Tedx Jabi: Determination, Drive, Discipline.
Ujuaku Akukwe: TEDx Jabi Licensee Kicking off the event... |
DJ Fusion: Sierra Leonian wonder kid. He built an entire radio station from scrap. |
Ronke Bello: Head Sports Desk at Naij.com and sports journalist. Nice outfit, can we kidnap your tailor please? |
Sola Kuti: His presentation was so on point, it needed some cheesy Western music playing in the background. |
My name is Kiki James and I am a misfit! Re-inventing charity in Nigeria |
Laila SMD: We must not all be entrepreneurs. Some of us can find our purpose and fulfillment in rendering complementary services to entrepreneurs |
Sadiq Dambatta - Young. Determined Driven. Disciplined. TripleD! |
The verdict from most of us? Sadiq is Bae.
First standing ovation of TEDx Jabi 2015? Check!
Onyeka Nwelue: Whether you like it or not, I am a University Professor without a PhD |
"Haba", he protested, "dem don follow me reach here?"
Networking at the event |
Buffy Ojiudu - Simba knew WHO he was, but it took the prompting and guidance of the wise old Rafiki for him to discover his purpose. That was the drive he needed to succeed. |
Onyeka Nwelue and John Bethuel Ezeugo: Self-taught guitarist now a music coach and instrumentalist |
Also at the event: Bolaji Abdullahi Fmr. Minister of Sports and Youth Development |
If you call me who I am not, I am not bothered. You cannot determine my story - Charly Boy |
First he took a picture OF the audience, then a selfie WITH the audience - Charly Boy. |
More faces from #TEDxJabi |
Sola Kuti, Ujuaku Akukwe and a guest at TEDxJabi |
Monday 16 November 2015
Diet killers...
Hands up ladies on a diet...
Hands up ladies on a diet who have friends working hard behind the scenes and right up there in your face to sabotage the diet...
If all you have are "supportive" friends who ooh and aah at every nano inch you lose; and pass the cardboard cookies just as you are about to reach for that decadent slice of red velvet cake, then sorry love, you are not on a diet.
You are not on a diet until you have had that truly concerned friend who keeps pushing you to take one extra shaki, eat an extra slice of cake, have an extra scoop of ice cream...
She urges you on to eat and drink and be merry after all, "no one knows tomorrow".
She is the first to hold your hand when you climb on the scales and to your shocked dismay, the scale "broke up" and is now maliciously adding on the kilos.
She will comfort you and assure you that all these diets do not work anyway, better be fat and happy than skinny and miserable.
"But I want to be skinny. I will determine my mood when I get skinny but for now, can't I just squeeze into a wardrobe full of size 16s if I want?"
"But you know you don't have willpower na," she reminds you. That other time you were trying to lose weight on GNLD, you failed.
Tianshi was a woe.
FLP was just plain awful.
Edmack? Pshawwww...
And so you believe her and tell people, "I am happy the way I am. I am fun sized and gorgeous, not every one has to be skinny, the key is to be healthy."
You see, you have never really dieted, until you are Dying Inside Eating Trash, with the equally "big boned" accomplice urging you on to eat more.
So one day, you walk into your burial ground of dreams - different shades and boxes of "wonder diets" that left your bank account wondering who brainwashed you; clothes you bought because you were "going to be serious about losing weight this one time and would fit into a size zero from size 26 in a split second"; and memories of you and your friend stuffing your faces and clowning for the camera.
Then it dawns on you - you don't really want to lose weight do you?
Your fat is a convenient crutch or else, you know what to do.
So you stand up and hobble slowly over to the mirror. You take off all your clothes and pinch a handful of belly blubber - you don't "pinch" actually, your hands are full and overflowing - and you say to yourself, "never again".
The fad diets...
The binge sessions...
The living in denial...
The not so friendly friends...
Success has so many strange bedfellows, but fat suffers from separation anxiety.
Three months down the line and as many dress sizes down and still shrinking, you are happier and healthier... the clothes fit better.
Your friend bumps into you after a long while of deliberate avoidance (on your part).
"Hah! Seems like you lost a looooooot of weight o".
She "hahs" some more when you tell her exactly how much you have shed in the past ninety days and then just as expected, she goes: "But I trust you, you do not have willpower. You will soon fall off the wagon and start eating everything in sight".
Expected, but it still stings anyway.
She of all people, should have understood. You turn and walk a few steps away from her, then turn back and watch as she waddles away.
Fat is a miserable loner. And when it feels kindred spirits drift away, it suffers from terrible, debilitating, separation anxiety.
You wait a few hours and just before you go to bed, you place a call across to her.
"Hi babe, would you like me to send across the meal and exercise plan I used to shed the weight? I miss our friendship and if you like, we can do this together".
The silence from the other end lingers for just one nano second too long and then if you had blinked, you would have missed the whispered, teary response:
"Yes. Yes please".
Sunday 15 November 2015
Something fishy...
Don't know where to file this under so I gues I would just go with "those things you think would tast really yucky until you eat them and discover they are somehow "yum".
Fish (doesn't have to look as sexy as mine)
Pepper (about 2 medium sized balls)
Onion (One medium bulb)
Salt (about 1/8th of a teaspoon)
Cabbage
Beetroot.
Blend your pepper (as much as you can stand really), and onion together, mix in a little bowl with the salt.
With a sharp knife - who am I kidding, even a blunt knife will do the job - make two or three horizontal cuts across the fish on both sides. Just score the fish until knife almost meets bone on both sides.
Rub in your pepper, onion and salt paste, ensure the fish is well coated with it, stuff in the cuts you scored on the fish, stuff the gills, then rub any left over mix all over the fish.
Place in a pot on the fire on very low heat, rinse out your pepper plate with about a quarter cup of water and pour into the fish. Cover and allow to simmer on one side for five minutes, then flip over to the other side and simmer for another five minutes.
(We are Nigerians, we cook our fish to "done". In normal English, that means we cook it to stupor and until the fish shouts out for help).
Okay, ten minutes cooking time altogether, the fish should be well cooked through, take the pot off the heat and set aside. What were you doing during the ten minutes cooking time? You were keeping up with the Kardashians?
Tsk, tsk...
This is what you ought to have been doing: grating or thinly shredding your cabbage and beetroot.
Arrange the shredded vegetables on a plate and place your fish on it.
Voila...
See, you didn't need too many eengrejens and it still came out tasting fab. Na so. Diet food does not have to taste like cardboard paper to be effective.
Okay o, tuck in and enjoy!
Bon apetit!